``I didn't let him hold a long stick at all.'' Children raised by mothers who pay close attention to how they play Fear of lack of ``strength not to be discouraged''

*This article is a partial re-editing of Yoko Nakasone's "Successful Children Find What They Want to Do" (Seishun Publishing).

As parents, we want to expand the possibilities of our children! Even though you think that, don't you tend to limit your child's behavior, try to put it in a frame, or try to get closer to the ideal image of your child that you want him to be like?

I used to be prone to that too, so I know how you feel. Behind it all, there is worry, and a feeling of not wanting to see someone fail... that's part of love, but if you go too far, you might end up nipping at the buds that are trying to grow.

Also, in an era when the world is changing so quickly, if you decide the future of your child based on old values ​​and your own beliefs, it could end up ruining your child's future. The feeling of wanting to do it and autonomy will not grow.

So, in this article, I want to do what children themselves want to do! I will introduce what you should do, or what you should not do, to cultivate this feeling.

First, let's talk about play.

Children are said to be geniuses in play. They have a talent for turning anything into a toy, even if you don't bother giving them toys.

A baby takes all the tissues out of a box of tissues, a small child just digs a hole in the sandbox, and makes a tunnel in the sandhill while failing many times. I'm sure you all have memories of playing like that when you were little.